Listen to our Hearts
Very often our lives are filled with lots of things that keeps us amazingly busy: working, taking care of families, run errands, meeting friends, chasing TV drama, games ......in the end, piles of books are bought but unread, the yearly resolution was never revisited, and you don't feel having a good life in general.
To be a Happier and Wiser person, it is of paramount importance to give time to ourselves and build Self Awareness. Once you tried this out, you will see how much difference it brings to your life.
Understanding a lot of us are tremendously busy at work and for family, I have come up some tips which is easy to practice!
Ground Rules to give time for yourself:
1. Noble silence - do not talk to anyone, watch TV, listen to music. Just listen to yourself. Why? Because when there is other information flowing in, your mind's attention will focus on the external environment, but not internal.
2. Focus only on one thing - Breathe. I know! our minds float away easily! Just switch back when you notice the mind has floated away.
3. Accept yourself. Do not scold yourself. - It's a time to watch objectively how is your body and mind doing. Do not Judge. Just Observe. If you notice something unpleasant, accept it and move on.
Tips to give time for yourself:
1. Get Going! - Promise yourself that you will make time for yourself and well-being! Motivation needs to come from within. Commit at least 15mins a day or 2 hours a week, and increase step by step.
2. Get rid of your Mobile when returning home from work - It is a more relaxing time of the day. You have finished some work, feeling tired and want to relax a bit. Instead of browsing emails and facebook, or chatting with friends on unimportant matters, Shut down (complete silence with no vibration) your mobile and focus on your breathe. You may feel boring and uneasy, or even the hands a little itchy! Observe these feelings, ask why you are having these feelings, keep on drilling down by asking Why.....while you are building up awareness on yourself, you will find some useful and interesting.
3. Get some exercises - Jogging, yoga, running, swimming...do something you like Regularly! Exercises are not only good for health, it's also perfect timing to give time to yourself. So next time when you are doing exercises, stay silent.
4. Meditate 15mins before bed - Massage a simple blend and rub on chest and nose. Close your eyes. Focus on the breathe. Sandalwood helps to cleanse and balance your mind. You will feel enjoying better sleeping quality for the night.
Bedtime Meditation Blend:
Essential Oil
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Sandalwood (Santalum album, India preferred)
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6 drops
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Diluted in Vegetable Base Oil:
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Grapeseed Oil (Vitis vinifera) /Sweet Almond Oil (Prunus amygdalus var dulcis)
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10 ml
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5. Carry a book with you - No time to read? Reading is so important as it helps you broaden your mind and exposure. Bring books that you want to read but too lazy to pick it up. Instead of looking at the mobile on the train, read a book!
6. Write 3 sentences in a diary: 3 happy things happened today - Feeling the day sucks? write down in paper 3 things that makes you feel happy, it could be anything range from boss appreciation, making a monthly bill payment on time, or ability to breathing in fresh air! Appreciation to yourself and the environment around you is a source of energy that keeps us moving on.
7. Free-style dancing and swinging - We all live in places with different controls, restrictions and rituals. We frequently remind ourselves to be self-controlled. Swinging and dancing freely can help to let go and release our internal tensions. (Not with alcohol and drugs please!)
8. Read bed-time story for your children - When you focus on reading simple bed-time stories, pay some attention to your breathing, and add a dash of love and care to the tone. You may notice if your breathing is more deep and relaxed, so as it will be with your children.
Finally, a friend recommended this useful site about developing self-compassion, here's the link. Enjoy!
http://zenhabits.net/
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